Be gentle and not cruel. Embrace humility more than arrogance. Thank others more than you accept thanks. Feel compassion more than apathy. See what others ignore. Hold others close more than you push them aside. Learn more than you teach. Be present more than absent. Give more than you take. -Joanne Cacciatore

Wednesday, May 2, 2012

the little things...

I have always described myself as what you would call Simply Complicated... I think those are the right words.  I am simple, because I will tell you exactly what I want, how I want it, what bothers me, and you wont have to play a lot of the guessing game.  However, I am complicated though because I wont let you in that close to tell you!

One of my favorite all time sayings is ...


I think for me throughout my life, I have had a lot of change.  My dad decided when I was young to stop being a undercover narc and become a lawyer.  So we moved lots to pursue that life.  My dad and mom sacrificed the world to make sure us children were always taken care of.  They paid attention to the little things, ALWAYS, we never felt like we went without.  I live by that.  I am used to people leaving, but I hate losing the little things.  I think its kind of a security for me, knowing things might have changed but the little things kind of make you feel like everything will be okay!   Recently, I have been struggling with a lot of change in my life.  Kind of just figuring life out I guess you could say and I have lost sooo many little things it kind of breaks your heart.  Things I love are those simple smiles from across the room, the little hand waves directed specifically for you, the chocolate candy post, or just simply picking my music on pandora, the name on the board, the five letter text sorry ... which fixes it all, the laughs, the quick responses, the like button on facebook, the annoying fights, but the vulnerable friendships.  Those are so easy, and so simple, but make the world complicated without them. 

As I was reading my friends facebook yesterday I saw a post of rolls she made for a Christmas party and each roll had a finger poke through the top.  I can picture the smile on her childrens face as they were making them!   Her post was how mad she could be but how she realized she has such a beautiful child that could poke the rolls.  Its time like that I get a little sad but realize I am surrounded by the little things daily.  From my childrens constant reminders of cuteness, Braxton asking a million questions and wanting to be the adult, with Awsten giving me a hug to say thanks for spending time with him, to Hailey always saying thank you mom when I buy her something. Yesterday Hailey and Awsten sat in the back of the car and read her book together!  Such a sweet little thing.  I have husband who for me will daily do little things like, empty the dishwasher and scratch my back as I am falling asleep, who says things to make me so mad cuz he wants to see me laugh cuz its hard to stay mad, to his goodbye hugs that he knows I hate but he does them anyway, with the text just make sure I am doing okay today and I am going through these changes.  He is adorable!!!

So at the end of the day, really try to never change the little things about yourself.  We cant control what others do, sometimes we make mistakes, sometimes we hurt ones we never meant to, sometimes people will talk so bad about you, or even hate you, but keep doing the little things because in the end, it is the difference between caring and not, between greatness and not, between love and not. It is the difference between a putting a smile on ones face or taking it away!!!  


  1. You nailed this on the head. I could not have said it better. Jen you are so amazing! You should never forget that. You mean so much to so many people. Never change the way that you are.

    1. You are a doll. We have to get back on our schedule. I think we are all crazy busy and exhausted! We need to be with eachother so that we can all push eachother! Thanks for being such a great friend! You are wonderful and I am super duper excited for the race Saturday we will have fun!